SEX THERAPY/SEXUAL CONCERNS
-Why come to me for sexual concerns/issues? I am a Certified Sex Therapy Informed Professional (CSTIP) and happy to help!
Sex…Let’s Talk About It
Talking about sex often stirs up a wide range of emotions—joy, anxiety, fear, hope, shame, anger, happiness, and more. Why is it so complex? Many factors influence our relationship with sex, from personal experiences to family, culture, religion, gender roles, and society at large.
As a Licensed Professional Counselor and Certified Sex Therapy Informed Professional (CSTIP), I’m here to help you explore whatever sexual concerns you’re facing. Together, we’ll work toward deeper understanding, honest expression of your thoughts and feelings, and meaningful changes that support a happier, more fulfilling sexual life.
Understanding Your Sexual Story
Family communication about sex—whether open, silent, positive, or negative—deeply shapes your early views. Cultural and religious norms also impact what feels safe or permissible when it comes to sexuality. Messages about when, how, and with whom sex should happen can carry powerful emotional weight, sometimes leading to confusion, fear, or shame.
Gender roles and societal expectations add another layer, influencing what you're "allowed" to think, feel, or desire based on your identity. In therapy, we’ll uncover these layers to better understand and empower your unique sexual self.
Sexual Orientation and Identity
Sexual orientation refers to who you are sexually attracted to. While traditionally defined orientations include gay, lesbian, heterosexual, and bisexual, newer identities like asexual, demisexual, pansexual, heteroflexible, and aromantic broaden the spectrum (Tammy Nelson, 2021).
It’s important to know that a sexual experience doesn’t define your sexual orientation. For example, a man who has sex with another man may still identify as straight. Understanding your orientation can help you feel more confident, authentic, and empowered in your sexual life.
Exploring Your Sexuality
Sex therapy also helps you explore your own relationship with sexuality. What thoughts and feelings arise when you hear the word sexuality? Positive memories? Shame? Curiosity? Maybe past trauma or societal messages have blocked your ability to fully embrace your sexuality. Whatever comes up, it’s all important and valuable to your healing and growth.
Building a Relationship with Yourself
One of the most powerful outcomes of sex therapy is deepening your relationship with yourself. Learning to love yourself more and understanding your desires can transform your experience of sex and connection with others. Expressing your sexual wants and needs—with yourself first, and then with partners—can lead to a more pleasurable, satisfying sexual life.
Ready to Start?
When you’re ready, reach out. I’m here to support you in creating the changes you want. Let’s work together to help you experience the joyful, empowered sex life you deserve.
(Disclaimer: Sex is a sensitive topic, and language on this page is intended to be respectful. Any brief mentions of topics do not diminish their importance—each deserves as much exploration as you would like.)